Contingency plan

I am starting to discover (for myself and with the wonderful guidance of my parents) that I can't have a contingency plan for every situation -- no matter how hard I would like to be able to.  Granted, I don't want to know everything my future holds because that would be boring.  I would, however, like to feel as if I have some things figured out for "just in case."  And part of me really does know that's an unrealistic expectation....

I think part of the reason that I would like to feel as if I have some contingency plans in place (for those "just in case" moments) is because I was blindsided by my divorce and there was no contingency plan. I never expected to get divorced so why would I have a plan for if it happened?  I'm not saying that things still wouldn't have caught me off-guard (which they did) or hurt (which I have never felt that kind of pain in my life before) but a contingency plan would have helped in the sense of having an inkling what to do with myself when it did happen.  However, as I sit here thinking about it, maybe if I had a contingency plan I wouldn't be open to something unexpected that is even better than my plan...

I know that there are a lot of unknown factors that are beyond my control and in those instances even if I had a contingency plan it would do me no good.  I guess one of the things that I need to do is work on being okay with not having everything figured out and to learn how to "go with the flow" (any suggestions would be appreciated/helpful).  "Going with the flow" is not something that I have necessarily been good with (as I'm sure you've been able to tell if you've been following my blog for any amount of time) and I think I need to start learning how to work on this and letting go of some of that control.  That, in and of itself, is going to be a challenge for me.

Maybe one of the things that I need to work on is finding one thing each day that I can't change and be okay with that.  Even if it's just something as simple as being okay with hitting a red light if I'm running late.  And rather than focusing on what things may/may not go wrong daily or with certain situations, it might help me to try and at least take things at face value instead of thinking that I need a contingency plan ahead of time to protect myself.  If I think about it, actually learning how to let go might be one of the best things I can do to grow as an individual...  If only I knew how/where to start said process...

I guess one of the things that I could say is I didn't have a contingency plan when going to Jury Duty this last week and I survived.  Granted, all I had to do was sit there because I was not one of the individuals selected but still.  I even went outside my comfort zone and talked to 5 people who were also there for Jury Duty (that is a BIG accomplishment for me because I would have been perfectly content to just sit there and keep to myself).  We'll see if I'll be able to do the same when it comes to this upcoming week -- I have two training sessions to attend this week.  I will try my best not to create/solidify any contingency plans this week.  Wish me luck...