Easy

I have heard the word "easy" quite a bit recently... I have mainly heard it from someone telling me (in varying contexts), "but it's so easy for you..." Then I heard a song this past week with lyrics that really struck a chord with me in terms of finding things easy - - "they don't know how hard it is to make it look easy....."

Sure, things may look like they come easy to me but I work just as hard if not harder than those around me. When it comes to dance, I attend almost every class, every performance, and I work at home. With work, I do whatever needs to be done (if it's in my job description or not) and I often bring work home with me so I know that it's getting done. So, for dance and work, I may make things seem like they're easy for me but I do work hard at both to make them look easy.

Another aspect of my life where people have pointed out that it's easy for me is in terms of how far I've come in terms of the wasband. I'll be honest, this whole journey has not been easy but I've become a stronger person because it wasn't easy for me. There are times I put on a brave face and maybe that makes it look easier than it has been. Yes, there are times where I allow myself to break down and be truly vulnerable but those are the times that aren't necessarily easy for me. I struggle with myself internally when I have break down moments even though I know that it's healthy to allow those emotions out. See, I really am a complex individual. =) (if you've been a follower of mine, you know that I'm a more complex individual that even I may be willing to admit at this point)

As I've been sitting here thinking about it, one of the things I wish that I did find easier is allowing the "real me" to be seen by those around me. Because of what I've been through, I know that I do find it more difficult to allow the real me out of the armor plate covered box that it's hiding in. Yes, there are times where I am able to show glimpse of her to others but I'm quick to hide her away again in fear of getting hurt again. I know that in order to let someone ever to be close to me again I will have to learn how to pull those layers away and be vulnerable. This is something that I will just have to continue to work on until it does become easier for me.

Sometimes I think I just need to take a step back from the things that do come easy for me and focus on building those skills that don't come without somewhat of a struggle. I know that because of some of the uphill battles I've faced (especially in the last 2.5 years or so) there are times where I throw my hands up and just stick with the things where I don't necessarily have to work as hard (or at least make it look like I don't have to work as hard - - like belly dancing for example). One of the things that I know that I do need to make more effortless is allowing people to see the real me and that is the one thing that I think I struggle with the most.

Another think that I know I need to work on is feeling confident in telling people "thank you for sharing but I'm not going to allow what your opinion is pull me down." When I hear comments from certain people I tend to almost allow their opinions define me and make me doubt the progress that I have made. I guess another thing for me to work on during my quest is to not doubt myself.

Well, I have a lot to work on in the upcoming week and the weeks ahead. Wish me luck!